I have some eligible female friends who complained that it was hard to find their Mr Right. I also have some eligible male friends who are single and remain confused. What do women want? Is that a question that men would ask themselves sometimes? Perhaps. Or perhaps not - nobody really knows, nobody really cares.
Most women themselves (TheBubblyGal speaking for herself at least), are lost in the demands of daily life, and probably confused about what they actually want in life. Playing the roles expected of them, their own thoughts and preferences often become secondary. After a while, it is really hard for them to remember who they are and what they want, apart from an occasional glass of champagne if they love bubblies like TheBubblyGal.
Letting go of the bubbles of unrealistic dreams and idealism, Maslow's hierarchy of needs apply to men and women alike in terms of defining their fundamental human needs. But what do women want in particular? Tender affection and care? Practical security and protection? Freedom and independence?
Perhaps modernity has made the question even more complex. Women have more and want more. It is harder for men to live up to these higher standards of expectations. Meanwhile, men also have higher expectations of women in terms of education and independence at least, while they still want to feel important and needed by women. Hence, there grows a widening mismatch between the genders. I suppose that’s what some men actually meant when they said that some problems in our modern society are the result of women becoming more educated and independent. It is not chauvinism but a attribution of cause and consequence.
What can we do about it? There is no way to reverse the trend of modernity. More understanding from both genders towards each other’s plight perhaps? More communication and less expectations? It is all easier said than done.
TheBubblyGal suggests taking a lighter-hearted approach to this serious sounding problem. Finding a good match would be a dream come true, but if not, life goes on and there’s still a lot to appreciate just living the bubbly life.
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